Family Law Attorney in Livonia, MI
No family case is ever simple. Every situation is unique, shaped by its own facts, emotions, and complexities. That’s why experience—and the ability to adapt—matters.
With more than 30 years focused exclusively on divorce and family law, Attorney Robert S. Menders brings the depth, strategy, and steady guidance clients need during difficult times. His approach is both practical and effective, designed to protect your interests while moving your case forward efficiently.
As a dedicated private practice attorney, Mr. Menders personally handles your case from start to finish. You won’t be handed off to someone unfamiliar with your situation—his commitment to you is direct, consistent, and in writing.
He takes the time to understand every detail, building trust and crafting a strategy tailored to your specific needs. The goal is always the same: achieve the best possible outcome while preserving dignity, relationships, and what matters most.
Family Law Services in Michigan
Menders Family Law provides focused representation in divorce, custody, support, and related family law matters throughout Livonia and surrounding Michigan communities.

Divorce

Child Custody

Child Support

Personal Protection Orders

Post Judgement Modifications

Juvenile Matters

Paternity

Alimony
The Process
A clear, straightforward process designed to keep you informed and moving forward at every stage.
Initial Consultation
After you contact my office by phone or email, we’ll schedule a consultation at no charge.
I believe that an informed client makes better decisions—and that starts here.
During our meeting, I take the time to understand your full situation. This includes your family history, financial picture, assets, debts, and any underlying issues that may impact your case. I look beyond surface details because what has happened in the past often shapes what matters now.
This is also your opportunity to evaluate me—how I think, how I communicate, and whether you feel confident moving forward.
Most consultations take between one and two hours.
As we talk, I begin identifying patterns, priorities, and your short- and long-term goals. Before we move forward, I review those goals with you to ensure we’re aligned and nothing has been overlooked.
From there, I explain how the legal process works, what to expect, and the strategies available to you. I’ll walk you through your options—including timeframes, costs, and likely outcomes—and give you my honest recommendation.
Fee Agreement
If you decide to move forward, I provide a written Fee Agreement that outlines everything we discussed.
I handle all work on your case personally. Your file will not be passed off to associates or staff, and you will not be billed for internal office expenses such as secretarial or paralegal time.
You are free to choose any attorney at any time. The agreement simply allows me to begin working on your case once payment is made.
Drafting and Filing
Once retained, I prepare all documents based on the strategy we’ve discussed and approved together.
You’ll have the opportunity to review everything in detail.
Any changes or adjustments are made immediately, and once finalized, the documents are prepared and filed.
Once your documents have been reviewed, signed, and finalized, I organize them along with any required supporting materials. Each court may have its own local rules, so I make sure everything is properly prepared before filing.
I typically handle filings personally. This is important because issues can arise—especially in cases involving minor children, custody, support, parenting time, or temporary orders. If a question or problem comes up at the clerk’s office, I’m there to address it immediately so your case is not delayed.
By the time you reach this stage, timing is often critical. I move efficiently to ensure your case is filed without unnecessary delay.
Filing fees are paid, and any temporary orders—often referred to as Ex Parte Interim Orders—are submitted to the assigned judge’s chambers for review and approval.
In certain situations, additional steps may be necessary. This can include filing emergency motions to prevent the removal of children, protect assets, or address urgent legal concerns. In more serious cases, Personal Protection Orders may also be filed when there is a risk of harm. While these situations are difficult, taking immediate legal action is sometimes essential to protect your safety and interests.
Domestic relations cases often involve multiple overlapping issues—especially when child custody is involved.
In Michigan, custody decisions are guided by what is known as the “best interests of the child” standard. This includes several factors, such as the emotional bond between parent and child, each parent’s ability to provide care and guidance, the stability of the home environment, mental and physical health, and, when appropriate, the child’s own preferences.
These factors require a thorough and detailed evaluation of each parent’s situation.
To properly support your case, we gather and verify evidence through a process called discovery.
Discovery allows both sides to obtain the information needed to present their claims accurately and fairly. This can include:
- Written questions (interrogatories), answered under oath
- Financial records such as bank statements, credit card records, and tax documents
- Reports or records obtained through subpoenas
- Depositions, where a party or witness is questioned under oath and recorded for use in court
Depositions are particularly useful when there are inconsistencies or concerns about credibility, as they allow for direct questioning and clarification under oath.
Discovery is also critical in addressing financial matters. This includes identifying and valuing assets such as homes, businesses, investments, retirement accounts, and income sources, as well as understanding debts and financial obligations.
Accurate financial information is essential. Without full and transparent disclosure, it is not possible to reach a fair and informed resolution.
Most divorce and domestic relations cases—often as many as 95%—are resolved without going to trial.
There are several reasons for this.
First, by the time a case reaches this stage, a thorough process of information gathering and discovery has taken place. With a clear understanding of the facts, experienced attorneys can often anticipate how a court is likely to rule. This makes settlement a more practical and predictable option.
Second, trials are time-consuming and expensive. Most individuals prefer to resolve their case efficiently rather than commit significant time and financial resources to prolonged litigation.
In many cases, the court will require mediation. During mediation, a neutral third party works with both sides—and their attorneys—to try to reach an agreement. The mediator does not make decisions but helps guide the conversation toward resolution.
If mediation does not result in a full agreement, the case may proceed to settlement conferences with the judge. These are typically held off the record, where the judge meets with the attorneys to discuss the remaining issues and, in some instances, may provide insight into how they would likely rule based on the facts presented.
Some cases may also be resolved through binding arbitration. This is a more streamlined alternative to trial, where both parties agree to have a neutral arbitrator hear the case and make a final, binding decision. While similar to a trial in structure, arbitration is generally faster and more cost-effective.
Each case is unique, but the goal at this stage is always the same—to reach a fair and informed resolution whenever possible, while being fully prepared to proceed to trial if necessary.
If a settlement cannot be reached, the court will schedule your case for trial.
By this point, most issues have already been identified and narrowed down. At trial, each side has the opportunity to present their case through testimony, documents, and other evidence gathered during discovery.
This includes:
- Calling witnesses
- Presenting financial and other relevant records
- Questioning the other party and their witnesses under oath
There are no jury trials in Michigan divorce cases. The judge alone hears the evidence and makes the final decision.
One practical reality of trial is that court schedules can be unpredictable. Judges often manage heavy caseloads, which can lead to delays or interruptions during proceedings. I prepare my clients for this in advance so there are no surprises.
Post-Trial Modifications and Enforcement
Even after a final judgment is entered, certain issues may need to be revisited over time.
The most common areas include:
- Child custody
- Parenting time
- Child support
- Spousal support
If there has been a significant change in circumstances, either party may request a modification by filing a motion with the court.
These matters are typically reviewed first by a referee assigned to the case. After reviewing the filings and hearing arguments, the referee makes a recommendation. If either party disagrees, they may request a review by the judge, who may affirm the decision or schedule further proceedings.
In some cases, the court may hold an evidentiary hearing. This is similar to a trial, where both sides present evidence and testimony before the judge makes a decision.
Enforcement of Court Orders
If one party fails to follow the terms of a court order, the other party may file a motion to enforce it.
This is often referred to as a Motion to Show Cause, where the court requires the non-compliant party to explain their actions.
Courts take violations of their orders seriously. Depending on the situation, consequences may include:
- Payment of attorney’s fees and court costs
- Financial penalties
- In more serious cases, contempt of court, which can include jail time
Enforcement actions can also apply to financial obligations, such as failure to transfer property, refinance debt, or comply with other terms outlined in the judgment.
While many of these issues are resolved before reaching a hearing, the court has broad authority to ensure its orders are followed.
Mr. Menders went above and beyond for me with my divorce proceedings, even long after the divorce was final. I would recommend him to all of my friends, family and acquaintances.
I was very pleased with Mr. Menders work ethic. I felt comfortable with him handling my case. He helped me make the right choices during the entire process rather than doing things that could extend the duration of our case. He’s fair but also is a no nonsense attorney.
I’ve known Robert Menders for over a decade and have had the opportunity to work with him on multiple occasions. He is consistently respectful, thorough, and highly professional. Robert brings a deep level of expertise to family law and approaches every matter with care, precision, and integrity.
Mr. Menders did an outstanding job representing me in my divorce case despite the many unnecessary hoops and hurdles placed in our way by my ex’s attorney. He resolved all issues in a professional and timely manner. I would highly recommend him.
Robert Menders has been the lawyer I have used for over 20 years!! In that time he has ALWAYS BEEN AMAZING!!
Mr. Menders is great at what he does. He has a lot of experience and is personally involved with every case his office is handling. He always strives to find a solution that would benefit everyone without having to get into a needless, costly fight.
I LOVED EVERY minute with Mr Menders. When I had a hopeless situation he showed me sunshine! He is human and has his flaws but I will tell you what he made me feel like a human being throughout the soul killing process of my divorce.
Mr. Menders has done everything and then some for me. Best lawyer around by far! Highly recommend.
Mr. Menders and Nina are great people to work with! Nina is always willing help answer a quick question and if she needs to find out the answer she gets right back to you. Mr. Menders will tell you like it is and will not steer you in the wrong direction.
Robert and his office have been amazing through this trying time. He has always given the information I need, helped with situations, and really cares about helping you get the best outcome possible. Highly recommended if you are looking for a great lawyer to help with your family!
If you want something done Robert and his assistant are the way to go. They both are very compassionate and will help you in anyway that they can. I am happy to have them by my side as I go through this ridiculous time.